Why you should pick up a new hobby

and it’s not what you think.

So it’s not very often that I get excited about a hobby or sport that my boyfriend is into. In the past I’ve gone to different sporting events or tried a few activities here and there, but always half assed it. I’m always supportive of things that he likes, but that’s pretty much where it ends. So, I recently decided to pick up a new hobby.

Chris and I have always been pretty opposite, he’s very competitive and loves sports. I on the other hand am more relaxed. I could spend my whole day at a spa or at the mall if you let me.  Whenever Chris would invite me to go play a sport, I’d go and play a round or two, and then sit back and relax. I found myself just playing along and going for the social aspect of these events, and realized I was really selling myself short. 

Give it your all!

What if I ACTUALLY committed to doing something my significant other liked (that I didn’t) and what if I actually gave it my all? How would this change the dynamic in my relationship? And how would it change my attitude towards his hobbies that I never cared about before? I decided to test out this theory, and I actually surprised myself … and my boyfriend.

So I decided to try a hobby he loves and made sure it was something I could NOT back out of. If I have to purchase something it’s pretty hard for me to lose out in that investment, so it gives me that extra push to stick with it. Now with all hobbies, you need a “starter kit”. Wether that be getting a gym membership, new shoes, a bathing suit, etc. Depending on your budget and what he likes, this hobby could cost a pretty penny.

Find something cost effective.

As our three year anniversary approaches I remember one of of our first dates being top golf, and it brings such sweet memories of all the times we’ve played together since then. So, why not put more effort into it and see if it’s something I could take on as a hobby myself?

I saved up enough cash to get my “starter kit”, I went with a Wilson set we saw at Academy. It has a few splashes of pink but isn’t an eyesore and the best part about it, they had it in petite. My set cost me $250 which was a lot cheaper than some other sets I was looking at. It can get pretty pricy depending on what you get.

So a few nights out of the week, we’ll put the kids to bed and hit a few balls out in our yard. He started to teach me about all the different clubs, what they’re used for and why. The stance you should use when hitting, how to place your hips, and a whole lot more.

So many positives.

It’s nice to let your significant other teach you something they’re passionate about, and see their eyes light up when you get excited to do something they love. It’s also really nice after a long day to have a beer or two, hit a few balls, and hang out just like we did when we were younger. 

Not only do we do a little bonding, but we also get out of the house, get some fresh air and have some quality time not sitting on the couch. Today we went to top golf with our girls and it was already such a better experience than before. I hit way more balls than usual, and my swing is definitely improving. I already felt more comfortable because of our practices, and it was so much fun. We have yet to go to the driving range or a golf course, but that is next on our list.

You might surprise yourself.

I was really surprised to find how much I actually like it, and I’m already itching to go again. I encourage you all to put all your efforts into a hobby your significant other likes. You might surprise yourself and find it’s something you really like as well. Not to mention, you’ll get a few brownie points when it comes to him wanting to help more in the home, or do things you love too. What hobby could you see yourself doing, that your significant other enjoys? And what’s a hobby you would like him to try doing with you? 

24 comments so far.

24 responses to “Why you should pick up a new hobby”

  1. Lauren says:

    Love this! such a good idea.

  2. This is a great post! I believe everyone should have a hobby of their own.

  3. Kristina says:

    Great post! My husband and I have been married for 20 years and finding things to do together that you both enjoy is crucial and so rewarding for the relationship. My husband had always enjoyed to fish so when we were dating I gave it a try and liked it, to this day I occasionally fish with him, I even tried going out on kayaks to fish with him more recently. I like to walk so we go on a lot of trail and beach walks together and explore nature and take photos and video. We love spending time together trying new things.

  4. EDWARD says:

    Well, why not looking for a new hobby might lead you to a more productive life

  5. Lian Wright says:

    I think it is smart to have a hobby. People should have something they can do away from work and they significant others that brings them joy.

  6. Thank you for this. Picking up a new hobby is an opportunity to learn something new and create a new bonding activity with the boyfriend or husband 🙂 It’s like a new adventure.

  7. Being open-minded and sharing in each others’s joys makes relationships so beautiful.

  8. 204park says:

    Great article. I really agree with this. We should really find ourselves new hobbies, something that’s entertaining but not on our phones.

  9. Sincerely Jackline says:

    Great idea.. I already have a hobby but having a new one is not impossible and hard to do. It would be a lot of fun too..!

  10. This is such a wonderful post! Hobbies are so wonderful, and it’s even better when you can share in a hobby with someone you love. My husband and I have taken up trail walking, and it’s so much fun to have something fun to do together every weekend!

  11. Shante says:

    This is a great topic it’s important in life to get out your comfort zone and try new things

  12. Amanda R says:

    Such great ideas! I completely agree! 🙂

  13. Crystal says:

    I encourage people to do this all the time! It’s so important. You never know how much you really may fall in love with something until you try it!

  14. I have to agree, there are so many positives to picking up a hobby. I love what I do, but side projects are always exciting.

    • heyitsrubee says:

      I agree! It’s always great to have something that you look forward to doing daily.

  15. Joanna says:

    My boyfriend plays golf but I don’t. He said he will never have the patience to teach me. 🙂 However, we do love going hiking together, and and I actually surprising him with a nice hike on his birthday next week.

  16. Arun says:

    That’s a great hobby. It’s lovely. Such adorable pictures. I agree completely a hobby together gives you a good time together, also something you can discuss on. Precious moments to relish..

  17. Monique says:

    I’m ALWAYS picking up a new hobby, lol. My list is never-ending. It’s nice to find out I’m good at something else. Even if I’m not that great at it, it’s nice to try something new!

  18. alexandra cook says:

    such an informative article, learned a lot of thing that I will certainly need, thank you for sharing :))

  19. Geraline Batarra says:

    You look so great together..! You two are so sweet, great pics. It’s nice that you found a new hobby. ☺️

  20. Bindu Thomas says:

    Great post. Its always a good idea to pick up a new hobby.

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