So it’s not very often that I get excited about a hobby or sport that my boyfriend is into. In the past I’ve gone to different sporting events or tried a few activities here and there, but always half assed it. I’m always supportive of things that he likes, but that’s pretty much where it ends. So, I recently decided to pick up a new hobby.
Chris and I have always been pretty opposite, he’s very competitive and loves sports. I on the other hand am more relaxed. I could spend my whole day at a spa or at the mall if you let me. Whenever Chris would invite me to go play a sport, I’d go and play a round or two, and then sit back and relax. I found myself just playing along and going for the social aspect of these events, and realized I was really selling myself short.
What if I ACTUALLY committed to doing something my significant other liked (that I didn’t) and what if I actually gave it my all? How would this change the dynamic in my relationship? And how would it change my attitude towards his hobbies that I never cared about before? I decided to test out this theory, and I actually surprised myself … and my boyfriend.
So I decided to try a hobby he loves and made sure it was something I could NOT back out of. If I have to purchase something it’s pretty hard for me to lose out in that investment, so it gives me that extra push to stick with it. Now with all hobbies, you need a “starter kit”. Wether that be getting a gym membership, new shoes, a bathing suit, etc. Depending on your budget and what he likes, this hobby could cost a pretty penny.
As our three year anniversary approaches I remember one of of our first dates being top golf, and it brings such sweet memories of all the times we’ve played together since then. So, why not put more effort into it and see if it’s something I could take on as a hobby myself?
I saved up enough cash to get my “starter kit”, I went with a Wilson set we saw at Academy. It has a few splashes of pink but isn’t an eyesore and the best part about it, they had it in petite. My set cost me $250 which was a lot cheaper than some other sets I was looking at. It can get pretty pricy depending on what you get.
So a few nights out of the week, we’ll put the kids to bed and hit a few balls out in our yard. He started to teach me about all the different clubs, what they’re used for and why. The stance you should use when hitting, how to place your hips, and a whole lot more.
It’s nice to let your significant other teach you something they’re passionate about, and see their eyes light up when you get excited to do something they love. It’s also really nice after a long day to have a beer or two, hit a few balls, and hang out just like we did when we were younger.
Not only do we do a little bonding, but we also get out of the house, get some fresh air and have some quality time not sitting on the couch. Today we went to top golf with our girls and it was already such a better experience than before. I hit way more balls than usual, and my swing is definitely improving. I already felt more comfortable because of our practices, and it was so much fun. We have yet to go to the driving range or a golf course, but that is next on our list.
I was really surprised to find how much I actually like it, and I’m already itching to go again. I encourage you all to put all your efforts into a hobby your significant other likes. You might surprise yourself and find it’s something you really like as well. Not to mention, you’ll get a few brownie points when it comes to him wanting to help more in the home, or do things you love too. What hobby could you see yourself doing, that your significant other enjoys? And what’s a hobby you would like him to try doing with you?